Every day, we are bombarded with images of things that seem perfect and it can sometimes have a negative impact on our inner perception of ourselves.
We are expected to be a perfect person in all areas of our lives and to practically have all aspects of our lives moving in perfect unison with one another.
If we lend ourselves to the notion that we must be perfect to live this life of ours, we are bound to live out the rest of our lives in complete and utter disappointment. It can also greatly inhibit us from doing some of the things we really want to do.
I think many of us place an unrealistic expectation upon ourselves to try to achieve perfection, as we see it.
Being perfect, or at least, appearing to be perfect may help us feel as though we have everything in our lives in order.
In reality, all it really means is that we are afraid of people seeing us as we really are. And perhaps, we are even more afraid of not being accepted if we are not close to being perfect. The beauty of being human is that we are all flawed in so many ways, irrespective of how perfect we or our lives may appear.
The pursuit of perfection is an honorable quest. Without it, there would be no becoming.
After all, who doesn’t want to be perfect in some or all areas of their life? But, perfection is not what we are here to achieve on this earth.
We are here to pursue our purpose, to share our gifts, to live fully and to grow without limitations, either self-imposed or otherwise.
I know all too well from first-hand experience how debilitating it can be to be constantly waiting for things to be perfect.
I have always struggled with the need for wanting everything to be perfect. Sadly, nothing ever is. No matter how hard I try, most things don’t seem to live up to my expectations.
It’s all beyond exhausting, isn’t it?
How about we begin to embrace the beautiful mess of life by starting to implement some of these tips into our daily lives?
1. ACCEPT PROGRESS OVER PERFECTION
Have you ever wanted to do something, but for some reason, either the timing hasn’t been perfect or you felt you were not quite prepared for it? The truth is, the timing is likely never going to be perfect and you’re never going to feel fully ready. What happens when we’re faced with this dilemma is that we end up doing nothing. Yup, a big fat nothing!
Waiting for things to be perfect before we begin something we want to do can be debilitating. It literally makes us feel stuck, like we can’t move.
It’s far better to slowly progress forward rather than waiting for everything to be perfect. Whether we realize it or not, the need to be perfect is a form of self-sabotage. When we tell ourselves that we have to be perfect at all things all the time it will likely stop us from doing the things we really want to do in our lives. So, we either won’t do them, or we will end up being dissatisfied with our efforts and ourselves and we don’t progress forward.
If there is something in your life that you want to do but you think you aren’t good enough or aren’t ready, just go for it!
It’s better to fail forward than to fail by default of not doing.
2. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
We are often told not to compare ourselves to others and there is honestly so much wisdom in that. It’s easy to look around and see others doing something better than we are, but we just cannot compare ourselves to others in any way. Everyone has their own strengths and circumstances that differ from our own.
One is neither better nor worse, just different.
One of the worst things we can do is to compare our chapter-one to someone else’s chapter twenty. By doing so, we’re not being fair to ourselves. We end up beating ourselves up and giving up because we convince ourselves that we will never be as good as others.
We need to remind ourselves that no-one starts off being great at things. That happens after lots of trial and error. . . and time.
3. Be Authentically You
We often see perfection as a condition of acceptance. I think we are conditioned to believe that people want us to be perfect if we want them to like or accept us, but that just isn’t the case at all.
People want to interact with REAL people they can relate to. They don’t want to interact with people that they feel are either too perfect for them or with people they feel they can never measure up to.
Don’t ever be afraid of being yourself. You don’t have to ever try to be anything you are not and you don’t have to please anyone. You are beautifully and perfectly YOU with all your imperfections and idiosyncrasies. Just be authentically you.
4. Honor Yourself and Your Gifts
I truly believe in the power and the importance of honoring yourself and your gifts. Trying to be perfect robs us of sharing our gifts and our humble beginnings with the world.
It can feel uncomfortable for people to see us starting out small when we want people to see us as having already made it. Therefore, we often only dream without doing or we work in secret to create things and we never share our gifts with the world. How sad is that? Honor yourself and your gifts by sharing with others.
5. Accept Being Perfectly Imperfect
I think many of us struggle with the need to be perfect in some or all areas of our lives. Perfection is nothing more than an illusion. It is only our own perception of perfection that frightens and inhibits us from taking action to begin doing the things we want to do.
What can we do to overcome the need to be perfect? We can learn to let go of being so attached to the end result. We only learn by doing and we can always make adjustments along the way. There is so much beauty in our imperfections if only we open our hearts to look deep beneath the surface.
I might not have everything perfect all the time. At the end of the day, my kids are happy and healthy and that’s all that matters, right?
Overcoming the need to be perfect, makes us raw and real and it gives us room to grow into the person we are meant to become. It’s part of the journey of life.
Do you struggle with the need to be perfect? I would love to know your thoughts on this. Please leave a comment.
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With all my heart,